Dear grandma
The days at the lake will remain forever in my memory.
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Children grieve differently
Unlike adults, children usually have a natural way of relating to death. They neither repress nor demonize it. Without fully understanding it, they see it as a natural part of life. Perhaps that is why they grieve differently than adults. Children can cry uninhibitedly one moment and be laughing again the next. They are not yet shy about openly showing their feelings. They develop surprisingly imaginative ways to process their grief.rnIt is important for children to be able to say goodbye to loved ones.
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May I keep the urn or give it to nature?
The urn may be kept if so desired. In Switzerland it is allowed to give the ashes of the deceased to nature, on a mountain, in the forest or anywhere else in nature. If you also want to give the urn to nature, you must pay attention to what material the urn is made of and what the particular municipality where the urn is to be buried has for regulations.
What is perinatal infant death?
Perinatal infant death refers to all losses from fertilization of the egg to the first months of life. This refers to stillbirths, ectopic pregnancies, miscarriages, abortions, stillbirths, and also sudden infant death syndrome.
Can a child attend the funeral service?
It is also important for children to be able to say goodbye to loved ones. At least older children (elementary school age and older) should be able to attend the funeral service. It is important that they prepare their child well for this and explain to them what exactly is happening there.
How to deal with the death of a child?
Experiencing the death of your own child is one of the most painful things you can imagine. Each person deals with it differently, what can certainly be said is that exchange with other parents who have met the same fate can help. Those affected who get involved with help in the form of exchange, self-help groups or conversations with friends and family can often process the loss better and learn to live with the new situation.
Can a child see a deceased person?
This depends very much on the stage of development of the children and this can probably best estimate the parents whether their child is ready for it or not. After a certain age, they can leave this decision to the children and prepare them well for how, for example, the body will look in the coffin. It can also be beneficial to the child’s grieving process if the child wishes to see Grandpa or Grandma one more time to say goodbye.
How do children deal with death?
Every child is different and therefore deals with death and grief differently. Most children don’t understand until about age 9-10 that people who have died don’t come back. The most helpful thing for children is to explain to them honestly what happened, so that they can properly assess the situation. If the death (of a relative or parent) is not talked about, children will make up their own minds about it and these can lead to misinterpretations of what happened, which can ultimately be more traumatizing for the child.